The process and challenges associated with accomplishing goals involve a level of personal development and introspection. Introspection involves overcoming your nature to step outside your comfort zone and take risks with potential rewards that will forever change your life. Our belief systems are often the cause of the results in our life. If we have an association that money only comes to people with a certain level of education, then we’ll never have money without that education. Given this level of consciousness, how do we change our belief systems to empower us and improve our lives? How do we change our behavior or the situations around us? Remember, the only thing you have control over is yourself; create the possibility to have everything. What would that look like? How would that negate the belief system instilled in you? Are you willing to look within, do some work and change yourself and the outcomes in your life? If so, you must start by doing some self reflection and having the willingness to be aware and make changes. Here is a step by step process:
We often live our lives day by day, not planning for the future or considering the after affections of our decisions and choices. What motivates us to make a positive impact on the world? What will it take for us to look at the big picture of our lives and transform short-term decisions to long-term results? The true question is, what legacy would you like to leave behind? How would you like to be remembered and are you on the path to achieving that?
Are you living a completely fulfilling life? Do you wonder why you’re exhausted yet haven’t accomplished much? Do you prioritize others before yourself? Often in life we become distracted by our “schedule” and daily responsibilities. Although this is a means of getting things done, have you ever stopped to think about the end result of this non-stop go, go, go lifestyle? What about you? Have you rewarded yourself for the things you’ve accomplished or are you even enjoying life? This month, let’s focus a bit more on ourselves so we can stay sane, rejuvenated, and enjoy our existence and the miracles that are rewarded to us on a daily, weekly, and monthly basis. How? Well here are a few suggestions:
High self esteem allows for healthy relationships, effective communication, personal and professional growth (due to the high value placed on development and belief in one’s self), and positive societal behavior (treating others with respect). What happens when an individual has low self esteem? How does it manifest and appear to the outside world? Often the lack of self worth manifests as a doormat where the person allows themselves to be taken advantage of and never taking a stand. Others are constantly involved in conflict because they feel attacked and need to protect themselves, therefore appearing very defensive. Another possibility is having a very high ego to counteract the lack of self worth which manifests as arrogance or over confidence. Are there benefits in having a low self image? Although it’s clear that having high self esteem allows individuals to further in their careers and personal lives more efficiently, challenges arise(including recession and unemployment) which immediately contribute to changes in self image. Here are some suggestions on how to work through what’s blocking you, followed by ways to focus on your strengths to help overcome these obstacles.
1. Understand exactly why you’re feeling low, where did it come from? What specifically is getting you down?
2. When things don't go your way, don’t automatically label the situation as negative. Ask the question: What is the positive in this? What lesson can I learn from this experience?
3. Understand the harm that’s being caused from the destructive feelings… Create a support system to share your concerns and then map out the potential solutions.
4. Find effective ways to be aware of these negative situations in the future, see the lesson and create a plan of action.
8 tips to build your self esteem:
1. What makes you feel proud? What are your achievements? Write them down when you’re feeling good about yourself, when you’ve just finished a very productive day or when you’ve achieved a goal and feel accomplished.
2. Do a SWOT analysis- Strengths, Weaknesses, Opportunities (options including activities, job opportunities, contacts), Threats (people and things getting in your way of accomplishing your high self worth).
3. Associate with positive, self confident individuals, they will rub off on you and also show you the light in every dark situation.
4. Ask for feedback, be vulnerable and open to change.
5. Plan ahead. Self-confidence comes from being prepared and aware.
6. Take action. High self esteem comes from taking action and putting things into motion, just thinking about it doesn’t do anything. Break down your challenges and start working through them one step at a time.
7. Role-play and rehearse for success- To handle conflict, confrontation, reprimanding an employee, job interview, negotiating a raise, or making a presentation, it’s so much easier once you’ve practiced it.
8. Celebrate your success and share with others.
What could you accomplish if you had more time? A friend of mine who was a college professor gave an assignment to his students, “No television for two weeks, and through journaling, I’d like to know how you’ve spent that extra time.” The changes, results, and impact on the students were miraculous. They spent more time reading, interacting with friends, staying active (sports and gym activities), and most importantly they were engaged in something that helped them grow. Television is just one example of how we spend our time; what happens in the office when TV isn’t a distraction?
Often times, distractions are so common that when the day passes you by and at 5 pm, you wonder why you didn’t get anything accomplished. Do you recall learning the 80/20 rule? This has been interpreted in many ways including, 80% of the work is completed by 20% of the people, or 80% of the revenue is brought in by 20% of the clients. Regardless of how you interpret it, let’s make the most of the 20%! Here are some suggestions to maximize your time and feel more accomplished on a daily basis:
When it comes to time management, ask yourself these questions to confirm you are doing the tasks that will help you feel good about how you spend your time: Why am I doing this? What is the goal? Is this the best utilization of my time?
We experience so many daily challenges and obstacles which cause stress and prevent us from living a peaceful and enjoyable life. Given the current economy, real estate market, and high unemployment rates, stress levels seem to be at an all-time high. Relieving stress and finding the calm and clarity to make important decisions and enjoy life to the fullest is imperative. Since we can’t re-do what’s already done, let’s make sure to enjoy the daily journey that we create-with as little stress as possible. Having a friend, family member, or coach could really benefit in discussing daily pressures and brainstorming solutions. In the meantime, here are some suggestions for alleviating stress and manifesting tranquility:
1. Live in the present! How does living in the past and focusing on regrets help you fulfill your life’s purpose and allow you to enjoy your existence? Learn from previous experiences by living smarter today. When things don’t go your way, look at the benefits of being spontaneous and take yourself out of your comfort zone.
2. Meditation can clear the mind to help you relax while yoga, tai chi, and qi gong will also provide physical exercise.
3. Do something enjoyable on a daily basis and schedule it as though it was a required task. This might include volunteering, time in the sun, walking outside, art, writing, crafts, or watching your favorite TV show.
4. Workout by joining a gym or becoming part of a team (softball, volleyball, running group). Not only will physical activity release tension, joining a group will provide motivation and a greater sense of belonging.
5. Wind down before bedtime (minimum of 1-2 hours). Most media sources (TV, radio, and computer) cause our mind to race which prevents us from falling asleep peacefully. Give your body and mind some time to relax by reading a book, journaling, or organizing the activities for the following day.
6. Have some reflection time. Write down your concerns, what’s causing stress/fear, then brainstorm potential solutions, and also be aware of worst-case scenarios. Then visualize the ideal situation, problems solved/eliminated, and feel yourself enjoying the rewards of your hard work! Being able to visualize a solution is very important in relieving stress because it allows you to see and feel a resolution, which means that peace is possible and potentially around the corner.
7. Get enough sleep, 7-8 hours at minimum will help you feel rejuvenated and prevent the little things from adding to the stress.
Regardless of the stress relieving method, finding and removing the source of the problem is ideal. If that’s not possible, it’s beneficial to find ways to balance the negative with positive or change your perspective about the stress causer. As mentioned earlier, having a friend, family member, or coach to share another view or perspective is valuable for promoting change and empowering you to think differently.
Networking has recently become a very popular-and very powerful-concept. It can benefit individuals who are working within a sales team, as well as startups, the unemployed and those who are seeking new opportunities. Networking is an excellent way to meet new people in both social and business contexts to achieve personal and professional goals while having fun. There are many types of organizations and based on your intentions, finding the right one is integral in making the experience positive and valuable. Some examples of these groups include:
2009 is all about saving money and managing your budget. What can you do on a daily basis to cut costs yet still live the life that you’re accustomed to living? Here are just 15 simple ways… Feel free to share additional ideas.
Do you have a dream, a goal…something to achieve and work towards? If not, what drives you to wake up in the morning?
As the clock stroked midnight on New Years Eve, many of us started the year with a kiss, champagne cheers and a resolution. How will this year and the resolutions we make be different from previous years where less then 10% were actually achieved? Do we want another year to go by without attaining our goals and desires? What happens when we don’t feel a sense of accomplishment? Does the time go by too quickly and then we look back thinking: “What have I done and why haven’t I accomplished anything?